So ive been struggling a lot with my ocd lately... but today is just a terrible day.. everyone is pressuring me to do my drivers license and i also want to but ive failed 3 times already and its just made me feel less confident in myself.. idk how to explain it literally feels like my brain is rejecting the idea of even trying again but like i said evryone is pressuring me to do it.. i don't know what to do i don't feel ready and i know i may not ever feel ready and i should just do it (thats what my partner says anyways) but no one understands that i have no confidence in getting my license and how miserable the pressuring is making me feel... any advise is welcome i really need it believe me i have tried for so long to get a license but i just don't want to feel like a failure anymore
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Whoever is pressuring you is not listening to you, and I’m really sorry. You’re clearly not ready and you need to respectfully tell whoever is pressuring you that you’re not ready and you will tell them when you are ready. Good luck!
Oh velieve me i have tried and all i get is "you have to get over it" "just do it and it'll be over" "you'll never be ready you just have to suck it up" and thats the type of reply that just makes everything worse.. i am really just done.. sorry if i seem a bit negative I'm just so over everything these days
First of all you are not a failure. Driving is hard and scary. Also the drivers test is so much pressure. Is anyone ever ready to do anything no probably. But you need to tell your ocd that you will conquer and pass your drivers test. Maybe try a different instructor or a different environment to take the test if you can. But I’m sure your OCD is already telling you you’re a failure and that you should just give up. Driving is scary but it’s also that sense of independence. And for my OCD having and gaining that independence is essential. So I think you need to decide when your ready if your ready to take this drivers test again. Believe me we all have been there and been so nervous but you can do it. You just have to believe in yourself. I’m rooting for you. You’ve got this.
Thank you 
its just so crippling really.. my mother wants me to go to the doctor and get calming medication (i had to get that to pass my high school exams bc i would freak out so much my brain would shut off) but my partner does not want me to get them.. i really don't know what to do everyone is confusing me and it just makes everything worse
I understand that completely. People are always going to give you their opinion. Especially since there your family and partner. They care about you and want the best for you. I got on medicine for my OCD and see a therapist and really does make a difference. Once again I’m not a therapist or doctor but I feel being on some medicine would help. I was against it for years but I am better with medicine than without. At the end of the day do what is best for you and your life not anyone else’s.
I have been on medication an it it really did help but once again my lartner doesn't believe in it and won't take me to the doctor to get refills so yeah I'm a bit stuck
Well that is tough. But like I said you have to do what's best for you. There are alot of people that don't believe in medications but we have them for a reason. And for us that have OCD it essential to keep us on a stable base line. I do think that BlueTuliptree had a good idea on doing a Tele help with your doctor. I know your Partner is important to you but at times we have to be selfish and put our own health first. If your severely struggling medicine is the best solution. If you've tried other ways in which to help your anxiety and they haven't worked medicine is the last resort. I hope you and your partner can come to resolution and you can get the help you need.
Yeah you are right i think i am just gonna go to a doctor its just i don't have the energy for the fights when i do go so i put it off a lot but i agree with you
Yeah at the end of the day it’s your life you get to decide how you want to live it. Most people that don’t have anxiety or any mental health struggles won’t get it. But your mental health is the most important thing that matters period.
Since the pandemic most doctors do appointments by telehealth or telephone now. Maybe ask your doctor if you can have a video (smartphone or laptop) or phone appointment. I have done that many times and it saves a lot of travel time (and sitting in the waiting room) for me, and for you it will give you the independence you need to get to the doctor.
I have also done that, talking with my Dr over the phone. I haven't seen her since Covid either and she does every appointment by phone. That way no one can tell you what to do; it can be on your time and no one can stop you from talking on the phone or doing a telehealth appointment. Also, since your partner won't take you to the Dr to pick up your meds, you can possibly have them mailed to you. It doesn't matter what others think, you need to do what is best for you. Maybe your Dr can have a talk with your partner and tell them how important it is that you receive help.
You are very right... i don't really care what others say and if they believe in medicine or not i just don't have the energy to deal with the fights and criticism and comments that follow when i do go to a doctor and take meds
How much do you really need to drive? In cities or big towns, being able to drive isn't essential, as you can use public transport. It's really only if you live somewhere that hasn't got good public transport or links to it that you need a car.
I don't drive - I meant to learn many years ago but couldn't afford the lessons, and then just didn't bother. And I know lots of people, mostly middle class people with good qualifications, who don't drive either. It isn't necessary to drive or have a car to be a citizen - far too many people treat driving as a condition of adulthood. It isn't.
So tell your partner and anyone else who is pressuring you to just lay off. Tell them that you'll do it if and when you feel good and ready.
The more pressure you put on yourself, and let others put on you, the less likely you are to pass. It's just setting yourself up for failure. And failing your driving test doesn't make you a failure. I'm sure that you have plenty of other skills to be proud of.
Thank you that honestly made me feel so much better you're so very right i don't need a license its not gonna change my every day life for example my partner drives us everywhere and i don't gobplaces without him and also he takes the car to work so what is gonna be the difference if i have a license or not? So I'm just gonna follow your advice and tell the people to lay off
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