A week on

[L1974]

One week and one day since dad passed, feel like I am floating along but also trying to find answers as to why he had to die?? Did a bit work yesterday as still working from home, took my mind off things a bit. Amongst all this it was the memory for my mam who died 27 years ago, so very mixed emotions. We cleared dads flat and most of the stuff in it was mams ornaments and personal bits, at least I have them. Hoping I smile again soon 🙂

[chloe40 Administrator]

Thank you for your post💗

It’s a difficult time for sure and very emotionally draining, please take are.

Sending love ❤️

[RoseyViolet]

You will... give it time. Grief is a process and I liken it to the seasons. Just like seasons we endure or enjoy surrounding us, grief also has it's seasons and each one is important to move through. You will smile again, you will be able to remember without tearing up. Tears are healing right now, let them flow. Praying for you as you process each and every single day. Give yourself lots of grace and breaks along the way to remember. Have you ever considered journaling your thoughts, emotions and any conversations you would like to have with him as well as your mam? It's very helpful to have a place to "park" them and get them out as if you were speaking to your dad. Hugs to you!!

[GoGo_JoJo]

Well done on getting so much done. Those early weeks are so strange, "floating" is very apt, it's a very weird time. Try to look after yourself too. 💖

[Caza]

It’s such short while ago that your dad past. Hard to sort his & your mums things out so soon, so well done you. My mum died just a few days before Xmas several years ago now & I remember just floating through it. Not a bad thing. Look after yourself x

[L1974]

I think I have just been on autopilot, expect it will hit me when I see the coffin. Just can’t believe this has happened.

[GoGo_JoJo in reply to L1974]

Try not to "expect" anything, just deal with it as it comes. I found the funeral surreal and got through it relatively easily. It hit the day after when my Dads' ashes were delivered to us 💔 then it got very real.

[L1974 in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

I’m not sure who will get the ashes, imagine my sister as she lives closer to the funeral home. We have no idea where to spread them so will hang on to them until we know. Still can’t believe this has happened 😞

[GoGo_JoJo in reply to L1974]

I felt that for weeks and weeks afterwards. I also couldn't understand how other people were just doing normal things... how could they not know that the world, let alone I, had just lost a beautiful soul 💖 there's no rush, don't worry, there's a different timeline for everyone.