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How do you really feel right now?

chloe40 profile imagechloe40Administrator20 Voters
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I'm feeling okay today but it changes daily
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I'll never get over my loss
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I think I have come to terms with my loss
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I'm still not able to lift my mood
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chloe40Administrator

Would be very pleased to help Hidden

Just let me know what you have in mind x

Chloe

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Greyone

Hi Chloe - I too think these are a good idea. I am finding that if i defy my mood i can lift my spirits. When its not too cold , i like to go into the garden and do some weeding. Seeing even just a small patch of bed clear of weeds is pleasing. There is certainly much to do.

I wonder if anyone else here is gardening to lift their spirits. Now there's a good question .

G1

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Greyone

Hi Greyone,

So good to hear from you.

I totally agree and it has so many benefits doesn't it? but how do you 'defy your mood'? that's what I and many others have a problem with <3

Chloe

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Greyone in reply to chloe40

I agree it is very difficult. But i take little steps. Weeding my little herb corner up to the great challenge of the hedges. Each time i achieve a little thing it makes me feel buoyant. Tomorrow when I'm shopping i must remember to buy some herb seeds and off we go.

Do you have green fingers Chloe ?

G1

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Greyone

That's good advice Greyone

I like to think I have, and it really gives me a sense of achievement and peace just looking out at the results. I must admit, I'm getting itchy feet to get outside and start but it's frosty still some mornings.

I only have a small area now but I love it <3

Chloe

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Greyone in reply to chloe40

I thought i was a little premature with mine because of the return of the frost. But weeding is certainly a must.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Greyone

Definitely, luckily I don't have to worry too much about that.

Keep up the good work!

Chloe

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Eleni

Hi Luna-child. I’m a qualified counsellor and CRUSE qualified counsellor too. I’d be happy to help with anything?

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Dolphin14 in reply to Eleni

Hi

I saw your reference to CRUSE. I did google it because I had never heard of it. I'm just curious what credentials are needed for this. Is it an advanced degree to specialize in bereavement counseling?

🐬

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Eleni in reply to Dolphin14

Hi Dolphin14. It is an internal course run by CRUSE bereavement care and is recognised by those working with the bereaved but is not a ‘degree’ or such. If you’re interested in this work, you would need to contact your local CRUSE and volunteer with them. I went on to do the supervisors course with them also. The organisation is fantastic and they run all sorts os other courses relevant to their volunteers. I definitely recommend it…Hx

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Dolphin14 in reply to Eleni

Thank you for taking the time to explain. I appreciate that.

Is it strictly UK based? I'm USA

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Eleni in reply to Dolphin14

You’re welcome…….and yes, I’m afraid they are a UK based charity. Not sure whether there’s a US equivalent….

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Dolphin14 in reply to Eleni

My grief counselor studied thalantology. She is amazing.

Thank you for what you do. I'm sure you have helped many people through difficult times

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Eleni

Hello Eleni,

As already mentioned, we are not allowed to offer personal Services here or advertise.

Many thanks

Chloe

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Eleni in reply to chloe40

oh apologies.. I hadn’t thought mentioning a bereavement organisation would count as ‘advertising’ but completely understand.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Eleni

Mentioning Cruse is not advertising, but offering your professional help as a qualified counsellor and CRUSE qualified counsellor is, no matter you weren't to know. However, if you'd like to help out here, please message me privately.

Thank you

Chloe

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Eleni

I thought you must be…..and expected that would be the case. All the same, happy to help if you have a need.xx

My late dad passed away from terminal lung cancer due to smoking in March 2019 aged just 63 years old.I'm a daddy's and nanna's girl (my nanna, my late dad's late mum) passed away when I was still in primary school.

I was heartbroken when she passed away as I knew that I would never see her kind and loving face or feel her loving arms around me and feel her gentle kiss on my cheek again.

I was completely devastated and heartbroken when my dad passed away as not only did I lose my dad, but my daughter never got to meet her birth granddad.

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chloe40Administrator in reply to Sophiesmum290902

I'm really sorry to read this @Sophiesmum290902

That's always so sad, I remember the loving ouch of my Nan and all the memories too, they are so precious <3

Chloe