Down in the dumps

[pamb67]

I'm fed up of feeling crap about myself day in day out and not feeling good enough. Im always beating g myself up and it's exhausting. When I try looking after my own needs I feel selfish and resentful of some people around me. I feel guilty for even thinking of myself

[nosub4]

tough going on you just now

[pamb67 in reply to nosub4]

I'm afraid it has been for pretty much since dot tbh

[Coffeelover5]

Hello, I totally understand feeling it would be selfish to take care of yourself and your own needs, especially when we're not feeling great. However, you can't pour from an empty cup and if you don't feel good you can't possibly give that to others, you will be exhausted.I used to struggle with that a lot, but nowadays whenever a period of depression hits me, I let the close people around me know that i'm not feeling great and I take this time to take care of my needs and do what is best for my mental health as much as possible.

You deserve the same kindness that you are trying to give to others.

[pamb67 in reply to Coffeelover5]

Thankyou very much I appreciate ur kind reply 😊

[Coffeelover5]

You're welcome, wishing you the best 🙏

[pamb67 in reply to Coffeelover5]

Thankyou same to you

[Dolphin14]

nosub4

Welcome to the community.

What do you want to hear when you are not doing well? Cliches are sometimes the only response people come up with as they don't know what else to say.

What words would you find more helpful?

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[nosub4 in reply to Dolphin14]

I just listen. There are no helpful words when one is in crisis

[pamb67 in reply to Dolphin14]

Someone understanding and showing compassion that's enough for me that's all most of us need

[Dolphin14 in reply to pamb67]

I agree.

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[Tryingtolovelife]

Hi, I used to feel just like you until an incident made me realize that neglecting my own needs wasn’t worth it. I’ve learned that it can be really difficult to love yourself but I make an effort everyday.

I hope you’re able to find all the happiness you desire.