is there a forum for grandparents needing help with diagnosed children who have behaviour and anxiety issues?
I have a 10-year old grandson on the spectrum. He is loving but always creates havoc when he stays with us, to the point where we often end up shouting and warning him. He gets upset and goes back to his father that way, leaving me/Grandma wondering how we can go through it again, but desperate to have him back. During his visits he always asks if he can come back and promises to be better next time, but doesn't seem able to, even shortly after promising, so to me, he cannot help himself.
His family is broken and he has a brother who is a looked after child. His mum is loving but is itinerant in his life due to her own mental health issues and an addition. His father also has an adult autism diagnosis as does his father - sounds terrible i know but we are managing
We have 10 years of some experience helping his elder brother, but as you know, one sibling does not always behave the same as another! We are very supportive of all of them; always have been.
I would like to know if there is someone who has experience of children with similar challenges of wanting to be nice but not being able to, with family anxiety issues and in his case (I think), separation anxiety (mum). And who have suggestions of the cause of / how we might help with the behavioural issues
John