So glad I found this site. It is now ten years since I sustained a brain haemorrhage. I live independently with my pet dog and prefer animals to people these days...
This increasingly fast, furious and noisy world we live in prevents me from working as it causes sensory overload big time which leaves me feeling cranky and fatigued.
On a brighter note, I am fortunate to live by sea surrounded by native trees/birds which nourishes my soul. I enjoy daily walks with my dog.
Living by the sea wow. I think that's every bi persons dream. I live with my dog and two cats aswell. Oh and my 19 year old daughter but least said the better. Lol. I use to work with animals before the crash cause I didn't live humans even then. Glad you've come on here x
Thorougly recommend it. The advantages do out number the disadavantages as it does take a while to adapt. Sprog heh! I laugh, as I have not heard that word since I was a kid myself! xx
Oh Leo my dog does defo. The papers have called him the hero dog. Yes he has been in the paper aswell as me. He's kinda special. More of a cat person really but he steals a fair bit of my love,,, 😍
I had a brain haemorrhage 8 plus years ago and like you suffer from sensory overload and unfortunately I don't live by the sea, so am a tad jealous. 😃 I like you can't work, but my hubby does, he still works full time. Because of sensory overload I am not able to leave the home by myself. So these past 8 years I have had no independence outside the home. (I do get out and about, but it's always with family, friends, but mainly hubby) Our garden is my freedom where I feel very comfortable in the surroundings
If there's anything I or the friends on this forum can help with we will, just ask away when and if you need to.......
Thank you for your kind offer of help I too, like to hang around my garden for serenity and gives me a sense of belonging. I avoid going out to the shops during peak times.
I sometimes, walk my dog in the local cemetery where it is very quiet!
Hi Jo, I had forgotten (no surprise) about this post and am glad I found it as I was reading through my previous posts. Like you, I suffer sensory overload and do my best to manage it. My garden offers the refuge needed, be it just pottering around or being still, watching and listening to the local birds. Especially during nesting season. Of course, I enjoy going to the beach even in winter and listening to the ocean at high tide and watching the local surfers riding the waves.... it takes me away from my own head which is a welcome relief. I guess gardening does that for you? Claire xx
Of course you are welcome to live with me and my dog! However, I live in Melbourne, Australia and it could be a bit tricky for you if things don't work out! xx
Ooops......................didn't see that coming Claire. I recently drove to N.Yorkshire, about 200 miles round trip, and needed to rest for a week afterwards. So I'll have to be content with the fantasy of 'beach and dog' ; maybe in another life ??
Do you have many issues as a result of your haemorrhage ? Since mine it's been mainly a problem of fatigue, memory and balance and, of course, the endless headaches.
I just wonder whether the absence of noise and other types of pollution has improved your over-all condition on a daily basis. I have a large garden where I find my tranquillity ! xx
Driving long distances tires me too. The main issues for me are much the same as yours, chronic fatigue, short term memory impairment, loss of balance, eyes/vision become strained when I over do it and the ongoing headaches. The absence of noise/busyness where I live, has improved my well being as I quickly notice the negative impact on my well being when I venture into the city/inner suburbs which is congested/intense environment. By the way, my bleed was on left side occipital and parietal lobes. I find that I function better going to bed early and getting up at dawn. And I have a neuro nap early arvo to recharge. My pet dog has his nap with me too!
I am curious to know whereabouts in Yorkshire you live as in the 90's I lived and worked in West Yorkshire for about six months. A beautiful part of the world.
You definitely have the life I want Claire. Everything sounds so perfect (not BI symptoms of course) but' all things considered it sounds like my kind of paradise ........................ even down to the afternoon nap with your furry housemate.
I'm a late nighter, turning out the light at around 2am and sleeping 'til around 10am ; so it wouldn't have worked anyway would it ??
Still, it might have changed my sleeping pattern, getting up to the sights & sounds of your environment.
Seriously though, I'm happy here. I'm near the town and yet once I turn into my road it's suddenly quite peaceful. And once I'm home it's like being in the countryside with the gardens & allotments beyond.
I'm actually in Sale, Cheshire, south of Manchester. I travelled to York to a friend's lodge (another heavenly setting) then over to Harrogate to see his mum, so North Yorks. I love the place. Where about did you live in W.Yorks Claire ? I'm familiar with Todmorden, Sheffield and Bradford.
Your home and life sounds perfect for your circumstances too. I previously worked as an occupational therapist and worked in UK in '97 & '98 and part of '99 in Minston (near Otley), York, Newcastle, Margate in Kent, Brentwood in Essex and Highgate, London. My favourite areas are Yorkshire, Newcastle and London. I have an Irish passport as my Dad (rip) was Irish so working in eu was no drama. I also have travelled around Ireland and stayed with my rallies in Dublin. It all seems like another lifetime now. I have been reminiscing about London as am a tennis fan and went to Wimbledon a few times and have been watching the live telecast here live and was following Sam Stosur. I stayed up extra late! Well worth it. Are you a tennis fan? What line of work were you in beforehand?
Claire xx
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ps.I have been to Harrogate...so peaceful and rich in history. I have been Cheschire too. You live in a beautiful area.Bradford was nearby me too although never stopped there when going through it. I had a rather old and tired Vauxhall nova whilst up in Yorkshire.
I've had a procession of 'old bangers' since my divorce, but after having breast cancer in 2007 I decided to compensate myself with a decent motor (that for me was a 5 year old Seat Ibiza which I love & am still running ).
I worked for the Probation service, helping naughty people back onto the straight & narrow, visiting clients in prison and their families at home. I enjoyed court work the most but the whole array of duties made it very rewarding.
So you have Irish connections too Claire. Half my ancestors were Irish though I've never been across. I must go over there on day if only to satisfy the 'pull' I feel from hearing my mother singing her little heart out whilst preparing meals in the kitchen, and she always sung 'Galway Bay' with such passion.
I've missed most of the tennis I'm afraid. It's that time of year when there are 101 jobs to do in the garden, so that's where I've spent most of my time the past few weeks !
I cleared a 20ft hydrangea from the back garden wall last week and bought a wisteria today to replace it ; I'll plant it out tomorrow.
I'd still rather be collecting seashells whilst walking my (imaginary) Border Terrier along a stretch of beach somewhere !! xx
It is winter at present here and it has been rather chilly. My beanies and scarves are getting a lot of use! I must say that was one giant hydrangea you cleared. My garden is getting minimum attention due to not so friendly weather conditions.
Sounds like you had an interesting job working with offenders. I am sorry to hear that you have had breast cancer and I hope that you are now ok. Life does throw some curlies.....
I'm ok thanks Claire. The breast cancer was scary but dealt with efficiently. The staff are amazing at the Christie hospital.
The biggest curvies came later between 2011 & 2015 with the BI then gall bladder op on top of several bereavements of loved ones. Fingers crossed we've turned a corner onto a better road for a while.
I forgot it's winter where you are Claire. I guess it's still beautiful to look at, but no picnics on the beach.
We've had the weirdest weather here this year ; a heat-wave in Spring and hot, very rainy days since. Many of my plants have literally drowned as it's been impossible the protect all of them.
But it's beautiful today with clear blue skies, so onward and outward for me (mowing etc).
Stay warm m'dear & give that pooch of yours a big cuddle from me ! xxx
I can agree with you about enjoying pets/animals to people. I have no pets and do not intend on getting a pet but I do have a garden, or should I say WE have a garden. I live with my parents.
My mum loves gardening, she is always out in the garden and it is through my local Headway that I started getting more into gardening myself.
My mum does a lot of research on the iPad and watches a lot of Youtube videos. We are more into permaculture rather than horticulture. Horticulture is more pointless gardening where permaculture is more easier-to-do and grow, gardening.
Think of the garden as a forest or wood. Trees or plants do not get tended to yet they grow just fine.
You don't see people digging and watering a forest do you, that's because you don't need to.
All these garden tools and weed killers and other gardening equipment, none of it is really needed.
Went on a bit much then about gardening :).
That brings me to the fast, furious and noisy world we live in. Again, it is not necessary.
People earning numbers. That's all it is. Then you take your slip of numbers to the bank where it gets turned into visible cash or 'material' as it really is.
Same with ATMs, you put your card in and draw out a bunch of numbers that then become MATERIAL.
You don't need to be rushing around making money all the time, so why do people do it?... TO LIVE.
Humans are the only species on earth that pay to live.
Why? We don't need/have to.
Slightly ranty message but we live in a complicated world that really does not need to be complicated and it is all in the sake of making money/material.
Thank you to each and everyone of you... we all do travel the best way can given the (unwelcome) adversity that we have been dealt with.
It does sound idealic for me to be living by the sea with my fury kid for companionship. Like you, I have a daily routine to maintain well being. It has taken me a long time to get it right. My seachange has been isolating as my siblings do not visit and most of my friends have gradually dropped away. It has taken many counselling sessions to accept this reality. I am not the sister/friend that I was before my brain haemorrhage and I would not want be that person now.
My new life is filled with richness indeed as I plan my day according my needs/the weather and appreciate the fact that I am not at the mercy of being a paid worker. I previously worked in a high pressure job that nearly killed me. Hindsight is a wonderful thing!
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